MY EXPERIENCE WITH TRYING TO FIND A MATCH VIA INTERNET

 

Back in 2005 an army buddy persuaded me to try internet dating, as that was how he met his wife, and he had a good marriage. The first thing that got my attention when looking over women's profiles on various websites was that it seemed that the vast majority described themselves as nice people who like to have fun without mentioning beliefs, values, expectations, etc. There were Yahoo Discussion Groups for Christian singles that said just write a description of yourself and what you are looking for, which I did. I got numerous angry and insulting comments from women that were apparently traumatized by my beliefs in Christian values, such as patriarchy, and could not just assume that my advertisements did not apply to them. (It couldn't be simpler. If a man believes in patriarchy and is looking for a submissive woman and you are a woman seeking a matriarchal or egalitarian partnership, there is no need to be hating, just recognize that he is not a match for you.) Around that time eHarmony offered a one-month free trial, which I tried. I thought my profile and answers to their questionnaire made it clear that I wanted a wife, not a husband, but they kept trying to match me with female GIs. I did meet a few nice women over the internet, but the nice ones that appeared to have similar interests and values usually lived far, far away, making it difficult to get very well acquainted.